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You can even move into some Qualification routines Chapter 5. To punish her if she says something silly or she is stiff and unenthusiastic about the routine shove her away playfully and say:. Spin Move Use this routine to reward a woman for something, to move her a short distance inside the venue, or just for the heck of it.

Take a position inside her group whenever possible, rather than getting stuck standing in open space like a stranger. You need to demonstrate more value using Attraction material and routines from this chapter.

Now you are leaning against the bar in a power position instead of her, and she is facing you with her back to the room. Run another routine to keep her logical mind occupied and continue stimulating her with Attraction material.

Spin Test A variation on these spin moves allows you to get into Qualification Chapter 5 a little bit. When she lands from the spin, break into Thumb Wrestling earlier in this chapter immediately. That was the fun test, and you just totally failed.

She looks fun Trust Test The Trust Test is a good way to move things in a subtly romantic direction. Then tell her if she passed or failed and that this tells you a lot about her ability to connect with and trust people. Tension Test The Tension Test is essentially a pretext to allow you to touch and massage her.

The key here is to deliver compelling Cold Reads Chapter 3 based on her reactions as you do so. Massage your hands up her spine until you reach her shoulders and then massage them.

Then rub your fingers down either side of her spine with a firm, even pressure. As you do this, make up a cold read up based on the tension you claim to have felt in her back. Arm to Hand Moving The first time you move her within the venue to change locations, e.

Later, when you move again and you have hopefully built up some comfort and intimacy, stand and offer your hand and lead her across the venue holding hands. This implies greater commitment and signals non—verbally that the relationship has moved forward.

Move her a few feet from her group and say:. Then take her somewhere private within the venue or even walk right out the front door and go for a walk. This maneuver happens so fast and appears so weird that they will seldom protest. Tap Cheek for Kiss If a woman is already attracted to you and ideally you and her are alone, then take a couple of opportunities to pause, lean in a bit, tap your cheek, and wait for her to kiss it. Do this after she compliments you or after you do something cool, like deliver a great cold read.

Do this in a fun spirit. This can become especially powerful if you and her are doing something involving repeated and somewhat unpredictable events.

For example, if you and her are playing blackjack, point at your cheek every time you win a hand. Not only do you get repeated kisses and contact out of this, but when you get blackjack, you can turn your head slightly when she comes in for the kiss. You can use the same structure if you are both playing a trivia game at a bar. Get a cheek kiss every time you get a question right and turn your head for a lip peck after an infrequent positive event, like winning the game.

Attraction is a trickier concept than Opening or Transitioning. It goes through the 8 attraction triggers, the 5 ways of conveying each attraction characteristic to a group of strangers, and discusses the underlying concept of Value. Value is such a critical component of attraction that we felt it worth the type of in-depth analysis and toolkit that is part of every volume of the interview series. There is also a significant amount of time during our bootcamps devoted to both the Attraction and Comfort phases, with the extra benefit of being able to apply these techniques when interacting — live — with beautiful women and having a Love Systems instructor like one of us looking on and helping you improve after each attempt.

Women become attracted to men all the time. However, when you call her afterward, there is a difference in thinking between men and women. He must be desperate or just want sex. This is why the Qualification phase is important. To get her to see you again, or to have her willing to invest herself emotionally and build comfort with you the next phase of the Emotional Progession Model , you need to convince her that you like her for reasons other than her looks and sexuality.

Ideally, those should reflect your standards and what you actually like. Paradoxically, the more beautiful a woman, the less effort she will generally put into developing and demonstrating attractive. Many beautiful women are accustomed to men being interested in them without having to actually do anything. This is true even though what most really want is a man who is challenging her, and who has enough standards and experience with beautiful women that he is not won over by her looks alone.

You can find these by asking her questions, or through statements that are essentially hoops for her to jump through. Of course, if she has already told you a bit about herself, look for positive qualities there and start with those. If you are using hoops see below for examples , start by making them small and innocuous. Small hoops reflect questions that ask her to confirm or deny that she possesses a specific characteristic, usually one that most women want to think of themselves as having.

She should be able to answer yes to a small hoop without thinking. Medium hoops require a little more effort on her part and are better tests of her interest in you.

In that case, go back to the Attraction phase Chapter 4 and try again in a few minutes. If she. The result of her jumping through hoops is that you will be able to show interest in her and give her compliments.

I love German girls. My ex-girlfriend was German and we went over there and traced her whole family tree.

The compliment, like the hoop, should be non-generic and non-physical. The more in-depth and specific you can be, the more she will feel that she has genuinely earned your interest, and, consequently, that you are the type of man who deserves her emotional investment.

Let her understand why you like a given quality of hers, as in the above example, without going overboard. Keep this process going even after she passes a large hoop and you move on from the Qualification phase. When you are stuck for things to say on a date or ten years into your marriage, find a reason to tell her why you like her. It still works as effectively as in the first ten minutes. Much of the above theory and structure, as well as many examples of hoops below, can be credited to Sinn, Love Systems Instructor.

Because in high school, the really beautiful girls, they could get by just on their looks, but the fat girls had to actually develop a personality to be popular.

You have a fat girl personality. Statements of Interest Use statements of interest after she jumps through a large hoop, or after a medium hoop that she gives a great answer to. This is an oft-neglected area of dating science. So many men are hung up on being a challenge that they forget to tell a woman that they like her when the time is right. This is an extremely important thing to remember to do, especially when you obviously both like each other.

Qualification is often misunderstood, so we tried to include a pretty detailed overview in the introduction to this chapter, but you should also check out Chapter 8 of Magic Bullets for more detail and precision. The vast majority of time you spend with a woman before your relationship becomes physical will probably be spent in the Comfort phase.

The result of this is that you are unavoidably going to need to develop your own style for the Comfort phase. You need to flesh out who the two of you really are and how you connect. Comfort routines are generally longer than routines for previous phases, because you are usually in a quieter and less intense.

Let your guard down but keep in mind to stay away from saying anything that demonstrates low value. Maintain both attraction and qualification levels and continue escalating physically towards sex.

Truth Game This routine is often used right at the beginning of the Comfort phase just after you have qualified her. It is fantastic for building a connection and exchanging personal information with a woman. Probe deeper on some of her answers. But you have to play fair. You have to tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. Ask personal questions. You can either explain that Strawberry Fields is a psychological experiment, or you can just jump into it.

How high is the fence? X number! Basically, you are telling her that she is highly sexual and that she follows her feelings and not what society or her friends tell her to do. She will likely want to live up to this, and it will make her more comfortable with and responsive to sexual intimacy later.

Her friends may ask you to do this routine on them later. Try not to. If you have to do something, substitute another similar routine like 4 Questions or Family Room, which are given below. Describe your feelings. What are three adjectives to describe it? What are your feelings? What do you do? You said you felt x,y,z. You said… qualities x,y,z. You said… qualities a,b,c.

You described it as… e,f,g. You may have to probe a bit when she is answering the questions so that her answers have enough depth for your analysis to be meaningful. Like in the Strawberry Fields routine. Rather, the goal is to help her feel connected, understood, and sexual.

White Room. Favorite color. Favorite Animal. Body of water. You feel at peace you feel calm and relaxed about it. You find yourself wanting to just let yourself go to all the passion and excitement and the deep connection you can experience. Now think about your family members. Choose a family member and put that person in the room somewhere. Then have her do this with all of her other family members too, one at a time, and describe where they are in the room. For example, nearer to the front means that the person is either the more dominant member or a pioneer in the family.

Closer to the back indicates the opposite. The proximity of people to each other indicates closeness and vice versa. It cements that you really like her as an individual for. See the section on Statements of Interest Chapter 5 for ideas. Months later she may still ask you. Unknown Sleepless Sleepless is an excellent routine, developed by Rokker, another top Love Systems instructor. He uses it to communicate that he is a person with purpose and direction, and that his life is exciting, fulfilling and something she would probably want to be a part of.

I wanted to sleep, but I also wanted to keep that good feeling. Felt really amazing to have this burst of creativeness in the middle of the pitch black night when you are supposed to sleep. Ever had one of those days? Many Comfort routines will be like this, for reasons explained in the introduction to this chapter.

You will have to adapt them to your unique identity. Now normally this only happens like the day before a [big presentation, I go rock climbing, etc] or something but this. I wanted to sleep, but I also wanted to keep that good feeling, right? Invented by Love Systems Instructor Captain Jack, they are tailored around the idea that sharing intimate personal information and revealing deep vulnerabilities heightens intimacy and trust.

While we were talking I noticed my Grandmother kept looking at my jeans. I was wearing a pair that came with holes already in them, a designer jeans day I guess After a while my mom got up to check on something in the other room. My grandmother waited till my mom was out of hearing range…. One night when I was laying in bed I overheard my mom talking on the phone to one of her friends.

She was worried about how she was going to pay the light bill. I started at one end of the street and sold the toys to the neighborhood kids. She started crying. She was so tiny and helpless. I was amazed. I wanted to work harder and become more successful so that she could have everything she needed. Something about having kids depending on you really makes you stronger and hungrier for success than ever This allows her to get a look inside who you are, understand how you see the world and to see the fact that you have a distinct, interesting point of view.

Having a point of view and an understanding of how the world works implies that you are a confident person with an interesting life, not an ignorant conformist lemming. This routine is an excellent example of how to communicate a personal philosophy on life, and help you create something that is based on your real beliefs.

There is also tons of sub- communication in this routine. You also frame her as being sexually open, which is great. You and I both have more chances in life than a starving orphan somewhere.

I remember back in high school, one thing I wanted to do was read the bible from start to finish. You know, how. God and Satan make a bet, and Satan is going to make all these bad things happen to Job, and the bet is about whether Job renounces God when this happens. I believe you have to take life for what it is, and take the world for what it is. Or like I have this great friend Katie, who is awesome.

So she always felt guilty after sex, and it was even worse the more pleasure she had. She was so used to being defined by others. You see that a lot with women of exceptional beauty, not always, but definitely sometimes…. Drugs vs. It lets you utilize the environment to begin building a more serious connection in the face of all these distractions.

Look at all the people drinking water around here. A friend of mine was really into the scene and he said that people drinking water all the time in these kind of clubs are usually on drugs A side effect of the drugs is it makes you feel affectionate, you want to be touched, you enjoy and seek touch much more than without them. When we are born and are still babies, we get lots of touch, we need lots of touch to develop and grow in the right way.

I read about this study decades ago where they took ten newborn babies and isolated each of them in a separate cell. But no one was allowed to speak to them, play with them, give them a hug, caress their head, be in their presence for long, and so on. Human contact was held to a minimum. We need human touch, it is essential. You can see incredibly successful people who have it all; money, cars, everything And not only rich people feel that way, but also many regular people too A lot of people have no one to touch them lovingly like their parents did when they were young.

Some buy love like with prostitutes or something, but they know it is not the same. They suffer from the effect of the substitute I will guarantee you that these people value a real. Drugs like ecstasy multiply this need by hundreds and make it obvious to many of those people…so obvious that they go for it and actually feel really fulfilled, for once in their life, they see that that was the part that was missing from their life.

But then it wears off and they link it to the drug and they take it again and again. But in fact the need is always there, it is always inside you and always longs to be fulfilled. Imagine what it would feel like if I would just lightly touch and caress the back of your neck Do you think it would feel good? The answer is obvious. A substitute can never beat the real thing Ideal Relationship Values This routine is great for when you are alone, having a private and deep conversation, particularly when the topic of relationships has come up and sexual tension is increasing.

First of all you need passion. Next you need intimacy. Then you need commitment. Now, all relationships are based on varying degrees of each one of these elements. Like a one night stand or something… nothing more, nothing less….

If you have just intimacy, but no passion or commitment, then that would be just friendship. And we all have those…. If you have just commitment, but no passion or intimacy, then that would be an empty relationship.

Like a lot of married people out there… so sad. Then you can have passion and intimacy, but no commitment. And you can have passion and commitment, but no intimacy. That is like people who stay together because they really like the sex.

And you can have intimacy and commitment but no passion. And of course the ideal, as with all things… is about balance, where you can have just the right amount of passion, just the right amount of intimacy, and just the right amount of commitment… well… now that I think about it, an extra little bit more passion would be nice… What do you think?

The Shadow and the Rising Sun Like the previous routine, this one is long and somewhat heavy. What is necessary is to convey the main themes. Here, it is that she can let out what she is repressing. And how opposites are really the same thing And then I remembered something that a psychologist friend of mine said once He said that everyone has a Shadow This is that part of you that you hide from the rest of the world The Shadow is a good thing, he believed Now, this sense of balance is very important because the concept that whatever you repress grows and begins to spill over into other parts of your life.

If your shadow is repressed it grows and grows Jung said it was like the rising sun This was the concept behind mid—life crisis. Now what if you were to step into your shadow right now, and see the world through the eyes of your shadow…. What would that say about the person that you are now vs. What is it… that this shadow most wants and desires right now? What do you deserve to enjoy now in your life?

Comfort is the longest and probably most difficult phase of the Emotional Progression Model. Chapter 9 of Magic Bullets provides a great overview of different approaches to build comfort. The best training for this comes from either a full bootcamp, which is heavy on Attraction and Comfort drills and live practice in restaurants, bars, and clubs, or from the innovative new one-day Breakthrough Comfort seminars.

Breakthrough Comfort is a rapid form of comfort-building designed by Sinn and Future that builds a very deep emotional connection very quickly. However, there are good ways and there are awkward ways to do this. You can also slip in little elements into getting her phone number that are specifically designed to make her more likely to answer the phone when you call, to create call-back humor opportunities for the first phone conversation, or to make her more likely to see you again.

This is one of those elements of Love Systems which is very subtle but also very important. We should continue this conversation some other time.

These can either be plans for that night; for example, you could be telling a woman about a party or another venue where you and your friends are going that you could invite her to. You will to do some work on the phone re-establishing attraction and qualification levels as well as reconfirming her comfort with you before most women will see you again. Still, making such plans provide a good path to getting her phone number.

I was going to check out to check out the Rodin exhibit at the art museum on Sunday. You can come along if you want. This concept, with examples, is explained in Chapter 4 Attraction routines , especially the Stripper Name routine. Use her picture to create call-back humor. If she drew a stick figure, tease her for this for a second.

When you call her, you can say something like:. I have a picture here of a stick figure. She has big ears though. Anyway, it had this number attached to it so I thought I would call. Having to explain who you are to an answering machine is a very weak move. To create call-back humor, tell her to program your name as something specific when she puts you in her phone, ideally something that relates to an enjoyable moment you shared.

The routines in this section make bolder moves in this direction. Traditionally, we use these longer sexual routines later in the Comfort phase. However, feel free to try them earlier if you sense, or just want to test for sexual interest on her part. We often do this. This routine is also useful for laying the groundwork for a threesome.

And the straight guys liked the men with women, and of course they liked the women with women, too. Make no excuses for being turned on by two women together. Smile and keep going. The inner essence of a woman is just there Another great aspect of this routine is that if she senses that you are good with women, and can help make threesomes happen in a way that makes her feel comfortable, you can stand out in her mind when compared to other men who may be pursuing her.

Threesomes are surprisingly common and attainable with the right approach. Secret Sex Toys This routine can only be used once you and a woman have been talking for a while and she is comfortable with you. Grab her purse and say:. I bet I know what you got in here, you pervert. Be sure to be smiling the whole time. Then open her purse and start taking stuff out. Everything you take out of the purse, accuse her of using it as a sex toy. I knew it… This may look like a normal tube of lipstick but I know that this is actually a vibrator.

This is that pocket rocket thing everyone is talking about. Shake your head suspiciously. She will usually laugh. Keep going, if the next item is a compact, say something like this:.

I know what this is… This is that new square vibrator dildo right? Yeah I heard about this thing. I know you are a freaking perv. Continue pulling things out of her purse until the routine gets stale. She may try to grab her purse back, which is a great opportunity to tease her and play-fight. This leads to more touching, which is a good thing, of course. Kissing The following routines are designed to take the unpredictability and awkwardness out of going for the first kiss.

Look away for a moment, then look back. She will likely have the same look. I have an insane sense of smell. She should come closer. A variation on this routine is to go directly to the next routine, Almost Kiss instead of kissing her immediately. Try both approaches to see which is more comfortable for you. Almost Kiss This routine was developed independently but in very similar forms both by Future and by Brad P.

The version below combines both approaches. Now this is a trust exercise as well as being fun. You are going to get as close as possible, but you are not allowed to kiss me. And I am not allowed to kiss you. Then move in. And do exactly what you said to do. There is an art to this. Move close, but do not make her think you are going to try to kiss. Your lips should be close enough that you can feel each other breathe.

Do not try to kiss her. If you get any resistance from her, do not force the issue. Playfully push her away and move onto another topic or routine. Two minutes or so later, say:. Once you do almost kiss her, you can safely move in for another one by just saying you want it. Simplicity Going for the kiss can be very simple. Such as:. The Sudden Kiss If you sense strong attraction and sexual tension, grab her and kiss her, suddenly, when she least expects it.

The more the kiss appears spontaneous and unplanned, the better: for example waiting a street light to change, as she comes back from the bathroom, when she returns with drinks, and so on. OK look, this is the forbidden zone here. Point to her lips and cover them with your fingers or your hand. The forbidden, and giving into temptation, are powerful sexual triggers for many women. Text Messages Text messaging SMS is a very valuable tool to help you stay in touch with a woman and see her again.

Texts allow quick initial contact after the initial meeting without the risk of showing too much interest. They allow frequent contact without having to escalate into a full phone call and make it really easy for her to respond and continue the emotional momentum.

These messages are great to send a little while after you met her, later that day or night. I mean… I barely know you, maybe we should wait! I wanna tuck you in and tell you a bedtime story! Phone game and text game is a crucial component of dating science.

If you ever plan to go on a date or see a woman more than once, you will need phone and text skills. Even if you plan to focus on one night stands, good phone and text game will still be necessary to meet up with a woman after everyone has started to go home. Chapter 7 Seduction Once you have passed through the Attraction, Qualification, and Comfort phases, you are ready for the final stage of intimacy: Seduction.

If you have been effective up to this point and have steadily increased the level and intensity of the physical contact between you, the Seduction phase should usually be straightforward.

Sometimes a woman will want to be intimate but wants you to work harder. Here are two of our favorites:. We have to take it slow. I need more time. I should totally not be taking your bra off… Whoops. Communication is your friend. I am really attracted to you, but I understand… We can wait. Stop escalating. Have a fun conversation with her. Start the touching again in a few minutes. Your genuineness and sensitivity to the situation may cause her to reassess what she wants and she will often change her mind.

Fortunately, we can point you to two outstanding resources. One is Chapter 10 of Magic Bullets a book you should have anyway which goes over the entire avoid-blur- distract model to state breaks and thereby pre-empting a lot of late-stage discomfort from a woman.

The other is two masters, Sinn and Tenmagnet, giving their specific strategies and step-by-step plans to move from the Comfort phase into a physical relationship. As mentioned at the beginning of this book, the routines here should not be used robotically but more as examples and as a starting point to build your arsenal of original material. Internalize the underlying mechanisms of proven routines and create your own style so that you are also able to improvise and develop material spontaneously.

All the best practitioners use a mix of practiced routines and improvisation. In this chapter, we will go step-by-step to give you structures to design routines for each effective phase of the game. Opening You really can start a conversation by saying just about anything. Pick a type of opener that best suits your personality and the situations you find yourself in.

Experiment with all the different types of openers and see how you do. Step 1: Hook - Ask a short question, preferably on a female- friendly topic. Step 2: Tease Their Answer - Improvise off of what they say, tease her, do a quick cold read Chapter 3 , or just find something interesting and unique about it and comment.

Story - Tell the story why you asked the original question to make the opener more believable, give them more information about the subject, and elicit more conversation. Opening Topics A safe bet when approaching women who are by themselves or in all-female groups is to choose topics that are known to be generally interesting to women.

Three of the best are:. The angle should be that you are wanting to hear what a woman thinks about the situation. Make sure you have a reason to be asking the question.

Is he some kind of hero to you people or is it a joke like in the US? This type of Transition is based to a large extent on cold reads, which we discussed in Chapter 3. Barnum is the observation that individuals will give high accuracy ratings to descriptions of their personality that supposedly are tailored specifically for them, but are in fact vague and general enough to apply to a wide range of people. The Forer effect can provide a partial explanation for the widespread acceptance of some pseudosciences such as astrology and fortune telling, as well as many types of personality tests.

In , psychologist Bertram R. He invited each of them to rate the analysis on a scale of 0 very poor to 5 excellent as it applied to themselves: the average was 4. He then revealed that each student had been given the same analysis which had been assembled from horoscopes :.

While you have some personality weaknesses you are generally able to compensate for them. You have considerable unused capacity that you have not turned to your advantage. Disciplined and self—controlled on the outside, you tend to be worrisome and insecure on the inside.

At times you have serious doubts as to whether you have made the right decision or done the right thing. You prefer a certain amount of change and variety and become dissatisfied when hemmed in by restrictions and limitations.

But you have found it unwise to be too frank in revealing yourself to others. At times you are extroverted, affable, and sociable, while at other times you are introverted, wary, and reserved. Some of your aspirations tend to be rather unrealistic. Read and learn the above paragraph. Virtually every sentence is a starting point for a quality cold read. These themes can also be useful in longer, comfort-building routines. Attraction routines should generally be short, and have a quick, immediate effect on a woman.

Some reliable sources of material for creating Attraction routines include:. Most of these are useless. In the Resources section of this book Chapter 10 we list some of the exceptions which Love Systems students have found useful in the past.

Write down funny one-liners and pieces of material that you think up or hear, and use these when meeting women. Re-use the ones the work well. Eventually you will have a whole repertoire of jokes that you know work well through trial and error. Humor is often learned in a non—logical, instinctual way.

You should also pay attention to other funny people and learn from their choice of conversational content and mannerisms. Read widely, and keep your eyes open for material that could make a good routine. Psychology Today and Mental Floss are two magazines that are good for finding interesting factoids and topics. Turn these into tests and observations that can be delivered quickly. No one is expecting professional advice from a stranger in a bar. Teasing Teasing can create attraction because you appear not to be pursuing a woman while simultaneously doing things to attract her.

Err on the side of having her be in on the joke rather than being insulting or making her feel uncomfortable. The list of potential topics is endless. Use the examples from Disqualification and Teasing Chapter 4 as a guide for constructing these. This applies just as much to stories told in the Attraction phase as it does to teases, games, and the like. Rather than re-invent the wheel, we have included the very comprehensive storytelling manual from Magic Bullets as Chapter 9 of this book, which gives a step-by-step guide to both Attraction and Comfort stories.

Comfort The Comfort phase is usually the longest of the first six phases of the Emotional Progression Model. The key emotions a woman should feel during this phase include:. Connection Especially early in the Comfort phase, your routines should be primarily focused on building a connection. You are still getting to know one another. The goal is to do this on a deeper emotional level and share the important details about your lives without the conversation becoming stale or mechanical i.

The Truth Game in Chapter 5 is a great tool for doing this, but anything that gets her to reveal intimate facts and feelings so that you can reciprocate is good. Or, conversely, you can tell a story in order to cue her to reveal something about herself as well. Also, look for commonalities shared interests, experiences, etc. Trust The next part of the Comfort phase is building trust and feeling that there is a special connection between you and her.

Acknowledge that you both feel an unusually tight bond and that she has somehow captured your attention. This can help her trust you and show that you are not just another guy looking for sex. You can also judiciously demonstrate vulnerability - there are some great examples of this in the Comfort chapter Chapter 6 - to show that you trust her with your feelings.

Make sure that you do this without jeopardizing the image she should have of you by now as a high-value confident man. Intimacy Toward the end of the Comfort phase, you need to put greater emphasis on having her feel open to increased intimacy, and, ultimately, sex. Seduction As noted in Chapter 7, the Seduction phase of the Emotional Progression Model does not necessary lend itself to a large number of routines. The avoid-blur-distract model for dealing with state breaks is covered in Chapter 10 Seduction of Magic Bullets.

The unpracticed use of routines in the Seduction phase can actually be dangerous. If you say something in the Seduction phase that does not sound genuine, you may destroy your chances with a woman. Any Seduction routines that you create will usually be highly situation-specific and designed to avoid or distract a woman from specific state breaks. If you understand how this works, you will be able to say or do the right thing. A Final Note Other routine types and conversational elements qualifiers, statements of interest, role-playing, cold reads, etc.

Allow yourself the freedom to be spontaneous. Qualify her based on something she says, not just with a canned line. Create a role-playing scenario unique to where and who you are. Say what comes to your head naturally and see what happens. Study the routines in this book and then learn to improvise and follow your instincts.

You will improve with practice. You must be able to build your own routines. There is no way around this.

We hope that there is enough in this book to more than get you started. We also did an interview on using and creating routines, which makes an excellent companion to this book. For more advanced training, we recommend either a Love Systems bootcamp which is important to do anyway or a routines consultation.

A consultation is a one-day, one- on-one session where you work directly with an instructor like one of us to build, refine, and organize your own personal routines. What Is Storytelling? Storytelling is a crucial tool in your arsenal, especially in the Attraction and Comfort phases. There are three ways to make this happen: she can observe them; she can learn about them from a third party; or she can be told about them by you.

Storytelling fits mostly into the third option as it allows you to tell a woman almost anything you want about yourself. See Chapter 7 Attraction of Magic Bullets. These qualities also show her that you are able to feel and convey emotion. Storytelling in the Comfort phase can help build a meaningful connection with a woman. Stories provide a great opportunity for her to get to know you better and should encourage her to tell you about herself as well.

What stories you tell and how you tell them gives a woman great insight into your personality. Make sure that your stories and their delivery reflect the best part of you, your values, and your identity.

When I am telling stories, I focus on six key elements:. Commanding attention is especially important in the Attraction phase, when. A hook line can be a statement or a question.

Some examples:. In theory, the hook line should be related to the story you are going to tell. Consider the following dialogue between two people who already know each other:. He: Not bad. A bit tired; my plane was stuck on the runway for two hours this afternoon. I had to go to New York for the day [bait].

The flow The main content of the story should flow naturally. Some people advocate writing your stories out word-for-word. But try both approaches and see what works best for you. Storytelling to women is about emotions. Remove unnecessary logical or factual detail. You only want the minimum amount of non-emotional content to make your story make sense; additional detail must serve a specific purpose e.

Embedded information Embedding means using a story that appears to be about one subject to subtly tell listeners about something else.

Thus, what you are actually trying to communicate to her is not the main point of the story. I think I know what it is now. I did a show there last week and afterwards a bunch of us went on a helicopter tour. It was really beautiful and all, but the weird thing was all the satellite dishes on the roofs. It was like a sea of little white patches, like the skyscrapers had all grown mold. So I figured it out. Theoretically, the story is about how satellite dishes look like mushrooms from the sky.

But the point of this story is the embedded information:. This implies status, and potentially wealth, two attraction triggers. In reality, it can be a trade show for all that it matters at this stage. To most women, this implies wealth, and possibly status. Go take one so you can tell stories about it. Create your own stories with embedded information for the Attraction phase. Start by thinking of events or situations from your own life that relate to any of the characteristics universally attractive to women.

Then, figure out a larger context in which you could tell a story in which that information would be an incidental detail, but would fit naturally within the story. There are a virtually unlimited number of ways to embed information. To get you started, here are some phrases or lines that could fit into larger contexts and imply good things about you:.

I had a show there last week and afterwards a bunch of us went on a helicopter tour. The more striking the embedded information, the more powerful the story embedding it must be.

Open Threads Another good advanced tactic is to leave open threads for your audience to ask about, to spur further conversation or to advance the story. She may ask you what you do for a living, or what kind of show you did in New York. If you are a performing artist, you can talk about this without appearing to be bragging as long as it is done in response to a direct question.

Maybe you were at a charity event or seeing your favorite band. Maybe your company sent you on an emergency trip or you were closing a deal or meeting with investors. Something relevant to you. Passing up easy opportunities to make yourself look good in response to her questions can actually come across as a positive characteristic in itself. Ever had strawberry milk?

It tastes like a trip to the dentist. A story can have a more powerful effect on someone if they are actively engaged in it as opposed to just listening passively. Try to structure opportunities for a woman to feel that she is contributing to the conversation. Stories about childhood experiences are generally good in Comfort. They can make you seem vulnerable without being weak, they give you an opportunity to laugh at yourself, and they create commonalities, as childhood is something you both have in common.

He was probably the only cat ever born without a sense of balance. I thought being able to balance on ledges and treetops was supposed to be part of the point of being a cat. But we lived. Anyway, when I was little, my first memories are of him walking along the edge of my crib and losing his balance and falling on me. It scared me to death.

It probably only happened once or twice, but in my memories it felt like it was happening all the time. In pre—school we all had to draw pictures of things we were afraid of. The other kids drew snakes and monsters. Those never bothered me, not even when my older cousins tried to tell me there were snakes under my floor.

No sir. The easiest way to do this is to ask her questions about elements of your story that she might be able to relate to. Many opportunities for input are set up as questions. The dialogue below contains an example of a pause where the listener should feel compelled to contribute.

I also make one of the opportunities for input into a hook line. This is often a good way of generating hook lines. But we lived on an island, so maybe we had mutants. Anyway, when I was little my first memories are of him walking along the edge of my crib and losing his balance and falling on me. What were you afraid of when you were little? Her: She responds — but this one will probably be really interesting and tell me a lot about her.

Talking about her response should build comfort. I can either pursue the conversation in this direction or leave it as an open thread and come back to it later. This story should have more of an impact on a woman than the first version, since she becomes invested, and she contributes to it.

The opportunities for input are not difficult for her, which is important. But everyone knows what they were afraid of growing up and whether they had pets.

Notional input is where you ask her to confirm something that you assume to be true. For example, if you were telling a story about your nephew, you might start with "My 8—year old nephew Samuel did the funniest thing this morning. You like kids,. Conclusion A good story should end on a high note that brings the action to a conclusion. Here are some examples of good conclusions you can imagine the stories that lead into them :.

In Comfort it might be a real lesson or insight. In Attraction it more likely should be something humorous. Delivery A story can take any length of time, from as little as 30 seconds to as long as 30 minutes, or even longer in the right context.

Make your story length fit the situation. In a loud nightclub, no one is going to listen to you for more than a minute or two right after meeting you, so keep your stories short. Learn to insert and remove material from your stories depending on the situation.

You should be able to see, smell, feel, hear, and taste everything that you were sensing at that moment. In addition, having that background detail available to you makes the rest of your storytelling better.

The backstories are full of details that will never get into the book, but they endow the characters with much fuller and more interesting personalities. Take your new friends on a journey with you through the story. Personalize your openers, stories, and routines to things that you are genuinely passionate about. Someone with excitement and enthusiasm in their eyes talking about a model train set that he built on the surface, not that fascinating to most women will get far better results than someone going through the motions of talking about his career as a movie producer.

Insert pauses strategically in your stories. They create tension and anticipation. I think I know what it. He was probably the only cat ever born [pause] without a sense of balance. Storytelling is a vitally important skill, not just in dating science but for any aspect of your life. Sinn and Future are both experts both have worked as stand-up comedians on the theory and practice of storytelling and humor, and we highly recommend their interview. Most Love Systems bootcamps include at least one storytelling exercise, where instructors like us help you take experiences from your life and turn them into attraction or comfort routines.

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